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Re:A Candle Loses Nothing by Lighting Another Candle by Hnrobert42 on Friday August 04, 2017 @08:02PM (#14933386)
I hate to admit it, but I fall into the resentment camp. I don't belittle others, but I do envy their success. I know this attitude is counterproductive, but that doesn't motivate me to change. I suppose this is one of the many reasons the author is successful, and I am not.
Re:A Candle Loses Nothing by Lighting Another Candle by ewanmcteagle on Friday August 04, 2017 @10:05PM (#14933857)
As Charlie Munger says, envy is the only one of the seven deadly sins that has no upside (isn't even fun).
Re:A Candle Loses Nothing by Lighting Another Candle by rorosaurus on Saturday August 05, 2017 @01:12AM (#14934337)
Devil's Advocate: Envy can be a powerful motivator which can empower you to strive to achieve what you desire.
Re:A Candle Loses Nothing by Lighting Another Candle by adventured on Saturday August 05, 2017 @02:26AM (#14934473)
Devil's Advocate on that: if you pursue something out of envy, it's very unlikely you're going to enjoy it nearly as much as anticipated, after acquisition.

There's a difference between pursuing what you want independent of particular concern for what others have, and pursuing something because someone else has it. The end result upon acquisition is entirely different. It's similar to fame or prestige in that sense, which are given to you by other people's often fleeting opinions, and are frequently torturous accordingly to the extent one cares about such.

Re:A Candle Loses Nothing by Lighting Another Candle by ramblerman on Sunday August 06, 2017 @07:37AM (#14940900)
Buffet has spoken out on it as well, saying envy is what really drives the world, not greed.

Most people don't really want things until they think they are getting the short end of the stick.

Re:A Candle Loses Nothing by Lighting Another Candle by justonepost on Friday August 04, 2017 @08:07PM (#14933404)
Oh the resentment is perfectly natural, but it's pretty easy to overcome. It's like skipping the third beer or not buying the chocolate bar when you walk past it.
Re:A Candle Loses Nothing by Lighting Another Candle by ada1981 on Friday August 04, 2017 @09:50PM (#14933816)
One of the best ways to heal this aspect of yourself is to actually expand the feelings of resentment in a safe therapeutic setting (possibly with a psychedelic or equivalent, i.e. Breathwork) and to get to the root of where your sense of survival was threatened by another's success.

This is quite common in the current us school system where children are routinely pitted against one another for the love of a proxy parent, aka teacher.

Re:A Candle Loses Nothing by Lighting Another Candle by pidge on Friday August 04, 2017 @08:26PM (#14933499)
Yet plenty of people struggle with alcoholism and obesity.
Re:A Candle Loses Nothing by Lighting Another Candle by adrianratnapala on Saturday August 05, 2017 @01:44AM (#14934389)
I think you are dead on that about the similarity between these different things. But such temptations are not easy to overcome. Or at least just about everyone will have a weakeness for some such thing, and if yours happens to be resentment -- then it will be hard to get over.

But you rinsight is still valuable: if you have difficulty getting over something, then remind yourself that you are being a like a drunk.

Re:A Candle Loses Nothing by Lighting Another Candle by electric_sheep on Friday August 04, 2017 @10:09PM (#14933861)
Skipping the third beer is easy. Just jump straight into number four.
Re:A Candle Loses Nothing by Lighting Another Candle by jamesrcole on Friday August 04, 2017 @11:41PM (#14934106)
> ...I do envy their success. I know this attitude is counterproductive...

I don't think it's necessarily counterproductive.

Of course an all-consuming envy isn't good, but I think some degree of envy is human nature and not a big deal as long as you don't take it too seriously.

It can have an upside, if it becomes fuel to push yourself to work harder.

Re:A Candle Loses Nothing by Lighting Another Candle by rajangdavis on Friday August 04, 2017 @08:35PM (#14933536)
At least you are aware of this. What's worse is dealing with someone resentful that isn't aware of their toxic behavior... you can change, nobody's perfect.