> That said, parents don't always get a choice.

The extension to this is the significant likelihood of other accidents. Car accident, blood clot, stroke, embolism, drowning, falling off of a ladder, heart attack from a stressful event.

A significant number of parents die all of the time, with or without dangerous hobbies. Number your days.

The degree of engagement is always your choice. You can deem the choice less moral according to your values, but that's the limit of it.

As long as abortion is legal, parents certainly do always have a choice; pregnancy is not equal to having a child.

Indeed. Well, I really hate to get technical here - and don't want to debate identity politics - but the male half of the equation really doesn't have that option. In the vast majority of cases, that choice is solely the mother's prerogative.

Edit: Let me be very clear here: I am not advocating for any position or change of position on this matter in any way. I am simply stating an observation of how the world currently operates to clarify original poster's statement.

pre-conception birth control is still a male's choice.

Yes, that's true but then that's really not the topic here, is it.

Fair point.