The second isn't a process - it's an end result. That only happens where there is some pressure for that result to come to fruition. That means you need people to get pushed into situations where they interact with others to get that normalisation. That requires some effort to pursue equality and give people chances.

I also think it's morally reprehensible to just sit back and accept generations of people who don't have the chances others do.

> - A post-racial/genre approach, where the differences are made as irrelevant as any physical trait, so the change comes naturally but it's a long process (what I've mostly seen in France)

I grew up (in the US) thinking that my generation (I'm a very early "millennial", apparently—the kind that well remembers a pre-Web world and grew up with a lot of Gen X media) pretty much had this down, and that especially the tech people did. The Internet of the hacker world wasn't supposed to care about this stuff, just results and ability.

Now everyone seems more divided over sex than it did then. Hell, sexual orientations of all sorts and interracial relationships (anyone else remember those "look who's coming to dinner" episodes of daytime talk shows in the 90s?) and such, which were all still very much issues to the adult public when I was growing up, really do seem to be disappearing as Things To Be Upset About (I know, bathroom bills and not counting your chickens and so on, but the progress there seems huge and very real), but the regular ol' divide between men and women? It seems to be way worse than it was.

I'm not sure what happened, but this certainly wasn't something I expected to be a major problem for adults of Gen X/Millennial generations. And I was raised in the Midwest and surrounded by Republicans (including my parents), so it's not like I grew up in a liberal bubble or something. The last decade or so's "culture war"-type battles in online communities, all the reports of significant difficulties for women in technology, and so on, have caught me very much by surprise.

Note that France is much, much worse at integrating immigrants than the US.

Also, you editorialized a lot in your description of "active integration".

My knowledge of the US is very limited but that's not what I've seen, for the me the "integration" in the US seems not very deep. At least in France in Paris there is a mixed middle class, the diversity in the workplace is huge at every level (well ok except for developers, even if there is a lot of CS grads the majority goes to consulting), there is a common culture and group of friends and colleagues are diverse without even noticing it without conscious thinking.

Sorry for the edits, I'm not a good english speaker and the tone wasn't right.

The US is very big - a lot of the US has extremely good integration.

The reality is that integration follows a similar pattern - bigger cities mean better integration. Find a vote map and you've basically got a map of how good integration is.