The issue isn't black-or-white like you're making it sound. It is a complex social issue with a likely optimum solution somewhere between the two extremes. Men in general are better at some things, women are better in general at other things. I don't see how recognizing these norms and expecting our society be structured around those norms is bad.

I don't think it's tied to innate abilities, but I do think there's more going on than just discrimination.

Women for example, dominate the tax preparation industry. I have no idea why, but I'm reasonably certain that it's not just discrimination.