You may or may not be morally deficient, but by demanding certain behaviours of women, you're being misogynistic. Many women have had the experience of being physically threatened, or threatened with career damage, by a man they refused directly and with sincere clarity, and have therefore learned to reject with a softer line that doesn't put them at risk of harm. Oh, and no-one cares if that wasn't you or how you behave. Your failure to comprehend demonstrates a lack of sophistication on your part. Don't blame women for your attribution error; help us fix the other men instead.