Many people spend X hours a day obsessing about whether css-turd-polish.io is better than Sassy.js v4. If you spend those hours working on something productive, you're automatically ahead.
The framework churn is increasingly a perpetual motion machine for conference talks. Don't go to conferences and you won't feel like you're missing anything.
React is an incredibly safe bet as well. Facebook is so heavily invested in it that they have multiple engineers working on it full-time. Furthermore, since they actually use the framework, any breaking changes are required to have a clear migration path. They published a blog post [0] explaining their strategy for how they intend to handle version transitions, which I consider incredibly developer-friendly. Look at angular 1.x for an example of a horribly handled transition.
[0] https://facebook.github.io/react/blog/2016/02/19/new-version...
Understand that good programmers are kind of hard to find, but okay programmers with experience in XYZ stack are not. Why? Because any reasonably competent programmer can become familiar with a new framework or library in about a week or two. Being able to separate the signal from the noise, and architecture an application well within that framework? That's what you're looking for. The tools themselves aren't that important.
Anyone who has a solid grasp of (modern) JavaScript will be fine with any front end tech stack.
Ideally you would get a grasp of what they need to do and some idea on how they need to do it. If you don't then you should hire someone that does, or who you can feel almost absolute confidence in. Then let them do the hiring.
Just my two cents.
In short, you're fine. Don't worry about it. Keep building things in jQuery. It works, there's plenty of documentation, and everyone's familiar with it.
I'd start here: https://github.com/verekia/js-stack-from-scratch
And then, once you've internalized what's going on here, break out create-react-app and just get to work.
That doesn't mean you stop learning. It does mean you inject a slow low pass filter in your life and don't react to every little movement in technology. You can learn about them while realizing your end users don't care and, in general terms, these technologies have no material advantages in delivering what customers are after.
Engineers are not business people. Do no follow what someone with no business experience says because you'll find yourself jumping from tech to tech and no servicing your customers.
I'll note that plenty of these tools and libraries have been around longer than two years. If I remember correctly, Webpack came out in 2012 and React in 2013. I point out these two projects because they caused a fundamental shift in the way I approached web development, and neither is looking like it'll be going away soon.
My suggestion would be to try out create-react-app [0]. There's still some stumbling points, but it does a good job of showcases the general direction many people in the webdev development community have moved towards. It hides all the build stuff into a black box. As you become more comfortable with the ecosystem and the need arises, you can eject and access all these tools directly.
I totally agree that the webdev community should strive to do a better job at explaining the purpose of all these tools, but I don't think this problem is limited to them in the slightest. In fact, I can assure you I feel the exact same way you do when I look at many of these cloud / devops / server / backend tools.
Do I want chef, puppet, or ansible? Oh, but you need better dynamic configuration management and service discovery, so be sure to pick up consul or etcd. Remember KVM, jails, and vagrant? All those are dead, containers are the new hotness, say hello to Docker. If you wanna be web scale you'll really need Kubernetes, cuz you wanna be like Google, right? But also check out Deis or Flynn, so you can build your own cloud in the cloud. There's a few other HashiCorp products with nice-looking sites, but I don't even understand the problems they solve well enough to even try poking fun at em. Let's not forget databases! Remember MySQL? It cloned itself and changed its name to Maria. But it turns out that it totally sucks and everyone is using PostgreSQL. Those won't work if you're trying to be web scale, turns out RDBMs are a thing of the past, the future is all about NoSQL. Try out Mongo, it's so easy to use! But be sure to also check out Cassandra, CouchDB, and RethinkDB. They're all NoSQL, but different, but still the same [1]. If you're really set on being like Google, then CockroachDB is the only serious choice anyway. Is anything going slow? You'll have to add some caching with redis or memcached. It's time to jump on the real-time train too, so you'll need some pubsub magic, luckily you can use kafka, rabbitmq, or redis. I'll stop now, since I think this is already way too long. However, I'll note I didn't even mention big data, analytics, or monitoring.
I know you meant well, and this is just the state of the world, but I can't help but feel like a dinosaur just because I spent the last 5 years focusing on server/cloud infrastructure.
Is there any hope for someone like me if I ever want to step back into it? I ask sincerely. It seems like every best-practice framework's compelling proposition these days is that it's "like XYZ, but fixes this obscure edge case", where XYZ is something that only came out 2 years ago, so I never used it, never mind understood properly.
[0] https://hackernoon.com/how-it-feels-to-learn-javascript-in-2...