“Let her speak please”

Re:“Let her speak please” by openasocket on Wednesday June 07, 2017 @10:15AM (#14506599)

I'm suprised no one has brought up that men talking over women is a well-studied phenomenon in childhood and adolescence. Girls tend to contribute less to discussions or conversations in mixed gender settings than they do in single-gender settings. My parents even noticed it when my brother and I moved out of the house, and suddenly my little sister was a lot more talkative at the dinner table. The exact mechanism or reason for this is not well understood.

I'm not sure if this phenomenon has been studied in adulthood, but I wouldn't be surprised if some remnant of it remains. Could this simply be an example of that phenomenon in action? Which isn't to say this isn't sexism, I wouldn't consider those two things mutually exclusive.

EDIT: to be clear, I'm not absolving the moderator of blame, or placing any fault on the woman. I'm simply linking this behavior to a broader social phenomenon that is fairly well studied. I personally think what he did was sexist, whether or not that was his intent.

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Re:“Let her speak please” by cr0sh on Wednesday June 07, 2017 @06:13PM (#14510266)

> The exact mechanism or reason for this is not well understood.

I have nothing to back this up, but my personal opinion is that the reason is our patriarchal society.

It permeates our shared culture to such an extent, that most people don't see it. Women and girls even participate in it, and use it to perpetuate it. It is everywhere. Literally everywhere. From the moment of birth to the moment of death, you are immersed in it. It's not really a wonder that children would pick it up quickly and act accordingly.

If you ever are able to glimpse it - you likely won't be able to unsee it. It becomes blindingly obvious.

You and others may or may not agree with me, so I'll just leave this here:

https://cdn-images-1.medium.com/max/800/1*yiv4glZWr2rzS2BMOo...

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Re:“Let her speak please” by openasocket on Thursday June 08, 2017 @09:48AM (#14514136)

I completely agree, this is a consequence of the patriarchy pretty much by definition. The smoking gun is that girls become more talkative specifically when men are absent, so girls aren't just less talkative in general, it's specifically a reaction to the presence of boys. By "exact mechanism" I meant more specifically why the phenomenon happens. Are women encouraged to be quiet when men are talking, or are men encouraged to interrupt women, or both? In a truly egalitarian society, would men interrupt less or would women interrupt more?

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Re:“Let her speak please” by projectorlochsa on Wednesday June 07, 2017 @11:01AM (#14506988)

It's biology.

Women are less aggressive and assertive by nature.

Testosterone and stupidity (much more prevalent in male population) does wonders when it comes to being aggressive, assertive and risk seeking.

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Re:“Let her speak please” by openasocket on Wednesday June 07, 2017 @11:07AM (#14507035)

No, this behavior is likely not biological. It's not a universal behavior, there are cultures where this phenomenon is reduced or completely lacking. That means it is likely a social construct, not biological.

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Re:“Let her speak please” by projectorlochsa on Wednesday June 07, 2017 @11:15AM (#14507099)

Which cultures?

There are social constructs but I would not deny biology. Effect of testosterone and estrogen on behavior has been studied extensively and it is quite clear from that why men and women behave the way they do.

Is women avoiding STEM a social construct? It most definitely is. Is women having lower salaries a social construct? In some cases yes, in some cases it is quite clear that they are not as risk taking as men, and are much more agreeable (they will not risk by asking a higher salary during a job interview).

http://sanfrancisco.cbslocal.com/2015/04/08/reddit-ceo-ellen...

A nice example of how biology created an inequality.

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