At risk of drifting a bit off topic, the Keith Rabois "if you're not bleeding from your eyes you're not really trying" attitude probably isn't helping either. Women are more sensitive to these things, for all sorts of reasons from shouldering a greater share of family burdens (not just child care BTW), to maintaining broader friend networks, to general attitudes about spending time in vs. outside the home. "This is your home now" can be unappealing to men, but IMX it's at least 2x more so for women.