You've missed the point. This isn't about providing for someone, but more about understanding the point of view of the other one. This doesn't diminish the equality. I've personally been in most roles - housewife, the only breadwinner, and both parties working. My own house runs more on fairness. It is harder to understand these roles when you haven't done them yourself. It is easy to highlight only the positives and things like that. Most housewives/husbands have the option of going to work to improve the standard of living if they would like, and I view that as their responsibility instead of relying on their spouse to earn more. This isn't their situation, though - affordability didn't seem to be an issue.

Look, if I'm working and the job gives me monotony and frustration daily - where folks aren't doing their basic things and I'm having to make up for their shortcomings - I'm likely to quit after a while. This is more similar to staying at home, except there aren't really days off and you can't escape.

One of the possible solutions to improve it is to move. Just one, and this isn't available to all. Others are her working, him making sure to pitch in more, remodeling, and so on.