> Same holds for the inverse: it's easy as a newb to consider everything as a pain point, even if it's a well designed procedure.

Sure, that's why I noted as much with my last sentence. :)

I wish we could find the Goldilocks developer to render a verdict. Someone who has just enough experience to not be used to it, but not so little that they haven't learned to use it.

Ask someone with experience who then became a teacher and re-familiarized themselves with the pain points.