There are people who are talking about the terrible thing the mother did when her own father wanted to punish her for lying and she said "Lola will take my punishment." Why vilify her and not her father, who made Lola a slave to begin with, who decided lashing was an appropriate punishment for lying and who went along with his daughter's suggestion that Lola could take the punishment? What teenager wouldn't want some means to get out of abusive treatment from their parent of that sort? Why is this so damning of her instead of her father?

I'm talking about what's in the article we're discussing. If you were talking about one specific incident only, you should have said that.

If the mother isn't responsible because her father was abusive, why assume that her father was responsible either? Maybe his parents were also abusive.

The cycle of abuse is an awful thing, but adults must take responsibility for their own actions.