The Etiquette of the Victorian Ballroom: Twenty Tips for Single Gentlemen

Re:The Etiquette of the Victorian Ballroom: Twenty Tips for ... by keehun on Monday May 08, 2017 @09:31AM (#14291285)

  #8 Don’t Whisper to the Ladies.
  
  “To affect an air of secrecy or mystery when conversing
  in a ballroom is a piece of impertinence for which no
  lady of delicacy will thank you.”

Nowadays, don't most people find whispering in a loud setting a kind of intimate thing from partner to partner? I personally find it has the effect of making a big event smaller, more about "us."

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Re:The Etiquette of the Victorian Ballroom: Twenty Tips for ... by chmod775 on Monday May 08, 2017 @09:44AM (#14291369)

It's more about shouting directly into each others ears over loud music.

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Re:The Etiquette of the Victorian Ballroom: Twenty Tips for ... by jdironman on Monday May 08, 2017 @09:49AM (#14291396)

Do that thing I like...

"DO YOU WANNA GET A DRINK!?"

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Re:The Etiquette of the Victorian Ballroom: Twenty Tips for ... by throwaway18917 on Monday May 08, 2017 @12:58PM (#14293402)

Fun fact: if it's ridiculously loud somewhere, just cover your ears (and have your conversation partner cover theirs), and you'll be able to speak to each other at a fairly normal volume. Works great for concerts and clubs especially.

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Re:The Etiquette of the Victorian Ballroom: Twenty Tips for ... by jdironman on Thursday May 11, 2017 @01:48PM (#14318018)

Noise Reduction, closer range. Makes sense I guess.

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Re:The Etiquette of the Victorian Ballroom: Twenty Tips for ... by Bartweiss on Monday May 08, 2017 @10:36AM (#14291813)

I think that was also the case when this advice was written, but with different social norms around that intimacy.

The concern isn't that it's personally unpleasant but an indelicacy - it creates an appearance of indecency in a culture where excessive familiarity could seriously harm a woman's reputation.

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