Re:The psychological importance of wasting time
by dev1n on Sunday April 30, 2017 @10:03PM
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How do you escape coworker's asking to go to lunch without seeming like an uninterested a$$? Would love some advice in this area.
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Re:The psychological importance of wasting time
by johnfn on Sunday April 30, 2017 @10:23PM
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Can't you just tell them what you're doing..?
"I like to wander around campus a little during lunch to recharge. Thanks for asking though, maybe dinner?"
Re:The psychological importance of wasting time
by JDiculous on Sunday April 30, 2017 @11:08PM
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Just say you're busy / in the middle of something. Decline their offer enough and they'll eventually stop asking you. No hard feelings (I say this as the guy who often invites others out).
Re:The psychological importance of wasting time
by wapz on Sunday April 30, 2017 @11:13PM
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This is what I recommend too. If someone declines me politely with a reason like "Sorry I'm busy today, maybe next time." I'll probably wait a week or so and invite them again if I want to eat lunch with them. If they reply with something shorter like "I got something to do, sorry," with a less kind intonation I probably wouldn't invite them again.
Re:The psychological importance of wasting time
by TheSpiceIsLife on Sunday April 30, 2017 @10:40PM
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Go occasionally, do your own thing most of the time.
Re:The psychological importance of wasting time
by taneq on Monday May 01, 2017 @01:49AM
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"Oh, I brought my lunch. Sorry!"
Re:The psychological importance of wasting time
by alansammarone on Sunday April 30, 2017 @10:06PM
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I've been faced with the same dilemma. Eventually, I just started telling people "I have something important to do". After all, being on your own every now and then is something important.
Re:The psychological importance of wasting time
by rdiddly on Sunday April 30, 2017 @10:19PM
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You can also say you've got a previous appointment or engagement... which is also true, even though it's with yourself.
Re:The psychological importance of wasting time
by mack73 on Monday May 01, 2017 @02:08AM
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You must all be very popular people since you have to have a strategy to get out of doing things with others. Most people have the opposite problem. You'll seem very unsincere after a while though, if your strategy is to not tell the truth.
Is it that you don't want to hurt the feelings of others that you lie? It's a little immature.