Re:How the Internet Gave Mail-Order Brides the Power
by emodendroket on Tuesday April 25, 2017 @09:22PM
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I'm not sure I buy that. The woman then comes to live in a country where she might not speak the language well, definitely doesn't know the culture or have a job or have any friends or know the law, and she's essentially totally dependent on her spouse. I have a foreign wife (not a mail-order bride, to be clear) and I feel like there is a big potential for abuse there. For quite some time I had to handle basically anything official.
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Re:How the Internet Gave Mail-Order Brides the Power
by geekpowa on Tuesday April 25, 2017 @10:38PM
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My ex is Filipina who I met while working/living in Manila. We moved back to my home country and we both where heavily involved with the Filipino ex-pat community here. Your sentiments and concerns match mine.
Although the internet has empowered mail order brides to some extent, there are still a long ways from guaranteed happily ever afters. From what I've observed the power balance is still heavily against women and such "transactions" fail and largely to the disadvantage of the women involved.
Also alot of cultural disconnects between Phils and OECD nations. Reflecting upon my past relationship, neither of our needs were being met in any meaningful way; by standards of relationships I've had since and currently enjoy. It wasn't a healthy relationship for either of us and when I observe many other Filipino/foreigner relationships I see alot of similarities with my own direct experiences.