The problem is that an awful lot of people who claim they want people to treat each other with respect and kindness are on the rampage about it and ready to behead anyone being inadequately (whatever their criteria). They frequently are not at all kind, respectful individuals themselves. They are frequently just assholes who like having justification for riding around on their high horse.

Real justice involves justice for both sides. SJWs tend to not have that in mind at all.

It's not unreasonable to expect that people who ask for respect and kindness behave respectfully and kindly.

Like, "if you're not even gonna bother, why should I?"

It's unreasonable and unrealistic to expect emotional compliance from people who are being wronged.

I envy your succinctness.