Re:How to Be Someone People Love to Talk To (2015)
by xor1 on Monday March 27, 2017 @01:49AM
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>But if you're still insecure or unhappy inside, it's going to come off as unattractive.
What makes you think that I'm insecure or unhappy to begin with? I see this as an investment in myself.
Re:How to Be Someone People Love to Talk To (2015)
by scrollaway on Monday March 27, 2017 @02:33AM
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I certainly didn't think you were either, but now you took what was pretty clearly a generic statement as a personal one and I can't help but rethink that.
Re:How to Be Someone People Love to Talk To (2015)
by xor1 on Monday March 27, 2017 @02:40AM
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I don't see how you think that it wasn't personal given the preceding sentence.
Re:How to Be Someone People Love to Talk To (2015)
by m_fayer on Monday March 27, 2017 @02:25AM
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Absolutely. A face will change in subjective attractiveness depending on the mental temperature of it's owner. Benevolence, tranquility, conspiratorial crackling wit, real empathy - seeing these on people's faces makes them immensely attractive.
And both your personality and your face get used to these mental dispositions and settle into them. So eventually we all get the face we deserve.
Re:How to Be Someone People Love to Talk To (2015)
by ThrustVectoring on Monday March 27, 2017 @02:00AM
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Yeah, how you carry yourself is a huge part of it. A year of dancing is worth at least a standard deviation of attractiveness, IMO.
And in terms of speech, I think it's much more how you say it than what you say.
It is usually much more important to carry yourself as attractive than to be beautiful. Confidence, honesty, friendliness, integrity, etc all can be assumed by a picture of a beautiful person, but in practice it's body language that portrays these qualities better. In addition, things like humor and other tips in the article can control someone's impression much more than looks.
Make yourself hot if you want. But if you're still insecure or unhappy inside, it's going to come off as unattractive. (Unless you then act more alpha as a defense mechanism to this... Behavior is complicated)