This is even more problematic in remote jobs (work from home). Most communication is non-verbal and much easier to misunderstand the writers true meaning/intentions.

Even without that, its a confounding problem for me. Im always doing those things: asking questions either to genuinely learn or to ferret out possible mistakes, pointing out errors, sharing better methods/techniques, etc. I just cant help it, and while I try hard to word things in a constructive manner, to make sure it IS constructive, more often than not I think it is taken poorly.

I want the same criticism of my own work, but I still often have a difficult time with it myself, though I recognize the signs as the knee-jerk reactions that they usually are, and seem to get better at that every day.