I think what we had is a failure of interpretation based on some ambiguity in the wording. To my eyes, it appeared not that you were trying to avoid that conversation, but starting it (see my other recent comment on this topic, in which I almost added the gist of this comment). This was, to use again an overused and currently debated term, me projecting. That said, I see this as a somewhat unavoidable part of communication, and I didn't necessarily meanit in a pejorative manner when I originally used it.

My original comment could have been paraphrased as "hey, please don't bring that stuff up without real cause or evidence if it's not the current topic. It's makes things toxic fairly quickly."