Re:Why Online Dating Sucks for Men (2013)
by pmoriarty on Wednesday March 15, 2017 @12:32AM
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"the majority of women don't respond to the majority of men, regardless of crafting of the message"
I'm not sure if it's all about the "crafting" of the message. A lot has to do with who you are and what you're trying to communicate.
I'm not a woman, nor have I pretended to be one on dating sites, but I've looked through lots of m4w personal ads, and if their emails are like their ads (which is very likely), they're super boring and generic.
This is really one of the biggest stumbling blocks, for both men and women (whose ads, on the whole, are just as boring as the men): their ads, profiles, and emails are way too much just like everybody else's.
If you can't differentiate yourself from everyone else, there's little reason to pick you over anyone else just like you, and even less reason to pick you over someone who can distinguish themselves.
I'm not sure if it's all about the "crafting" of the message. A lot has to do with who you are and what you're trying to communicate.
I'm not a woman, nor have I pretended to be one on dating sites, but I've looked through lots of m4w personal ads, and if their emails are like their ads (which is very likely), they're super boring and generic.
This is really one of the biggest stumbling blocks, for both men and women (whose ads, on the whole, are just as boring as the men): their ads, profiles, and emails are way too much just like everybody else's.
If you can't differentiate yourself from everyone else, there's little reason to pick you over anyone else just like you, and even less reason to pick you over someone who can distinguish themselves.