Different strokes for different folks man. It's not the siren song of the marketer's pyrite that draws people to the cities (and I'd love to see your numbers considering the total population of Kansas is a quarter of nyc alone). Living in a tiny town 20+ miles from the city center honestly sounds like hell for me, and many of the people I know; we have no interest in ever starting a family, in owning a car, in restricting our options for food and culture, hell in some cases even home ownership. Clearly the opposite is the case for you and that's ok, just, don't pretend like you have some cosmic truth figured out.