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Re:Why I will never have a girlfriend (1999) by hueving on Thursday January 26, 2017 @08:32AM (#13491119)
>I don't believe in soulmates or perfect matches.

So did you feel like you "settled" so to speak? If so, did you ever stop thinking that?

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Re:Why I will never have a girlfriend (1999) by mathattack on Thursday January 26, 2017 @08:38AM (#13491158)
It's not a matter of settling. Perfection in relationships is a wrong concept. (If someone projects one on Facebook, it's to cover their insecurities) They take work. Even when you find the right person.
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Re:Why I will never have a girlfriend (1999) by Clubber on Thursday January 26, 2017 @09:04AM (#13491379)
Agreed. It's like finding the perfect job that's perfect for 40 years. Never gonna happen. It's great to find a good job, that keeps your interest, respects you, treats you well, grows with you, is loyal, and gives back; but you're never gonna find a perfect job.

Some people find what seems like a perfect job, then after a few years, they get bought out and aren't so perfect anymore.

I played the field until I was in my mid 30s, then settled down. Never been happier. I hope it lasts, and I think it will.

Also, beauty fades pretty quickly. Not only in the object, but in the eye of the beholder. The person is much more important. Also, it sucks when everyone hits on your girlfriend / wife all the time.

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Re:Why I will never have a girlfriend (1999) by gf263 on Thursday January 26, 2017 @10:36AM (#13492153)
Not really, I think its funny :)
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Re:Why I will never have a girlfriend (1999) by mathattack on Thursday January 26, 2017 @11:52AM (#13492948)
Also, beauty fades pretty quickly. Not only in the object, but in the eye of the beholder. The person is much more important.

Truth! After you have two kids, the character of your spouse matters much more than anything else. :-)

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Re:Why I will never have a girlfriend (1999) by posterboy on Thursday January 26, 2017 @09:00AM (#13491345)
Ah, this sounds so right taking into account 'perfect' means a finished process, compared to the ongoing progress that a relation is (and live in general).

Edit: Further, careless and secura are antonym homonyms modulo literal translation.

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Re:Why I will never have a girlfriend (1999) by hueving on Thursday January 26, 2017 @09:46AM (#13491744)
>It's not a matter of settling.

Let me rephrase it. When you were looking for a relationship, did you have a set of expectations that you ultimately gave up on fulfilling? Or did you try to set out with no expectations at all?

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Re:Why I will never have a girlfriend (1999) by agilebyte on Thursday January 26, 2017 @09:47AM (#13491757)
Not the author of the comment, but once your ego gets humbled enough, you "settle" without feeling like you are settling. Perfection is the enemy of human.
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