San Francisco Asks: Where Have All the Children Gone?

Re:San Francisco Asks: Where Have All the Children Gone? by larrywright on Sunday January 22, 2017 @02:44PM (#13456917)

It's all a matter of priorities. When my wife and I got married we knew that she wanted to stay home with the kids when we had them. To avoid becoming comfortable with two incomes and have to back down later, we made the choice to live on only my salary and put hers in the bank. We never got used two incomes, so it was pretty easy for her to leave her job when the time came.

There's all sorts of caveats with this, of course, and not every family can make it happen. We definitely don't regret the choice, and I'm certain our kids are better for it.

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Re:San Francisco Asks: Where Have All the Children Gone? by stinkytaco on Sunday January 22, 2017 @03:16PM (#13457153)

I'm not criticizing people who chose to stay home, but I'm also defensive of being morally judged for having two working parents. Even if I can afford to do so (and many people can't), I've opted to give my child a different set of experiences.

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Re:San Francisco Asks: Where Have All the Children Gone? by larrywright on Sunday January 22, 2017 @03:23PM (#13457194)

I'm not at all judging anyone who chooses differently than we did. I do think our kids are better off than if we had chosen differently, but I think they'd turn out great either way. You're absolutely right - you're giving your child different experiences, and that's not right or wrong - just different.

I make it a point not to judge other parents' choices (except parents who let their kids wear camo - that's just inexcusable).

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