Re:Sexless in Silicon Valley: why nobody's getting laid in A...
by coldtea on Saturday January 21, 2017 @10:29AM
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>After some self-analysis I concluded the reason is very simple and obvious: What I would want a girlfriend for? I don't have any money (literally), I still have lots of debts (made to pay student debts), I don't own a house, or a car, or even a bicycle, I spend most of my time trying to sharp my work skills in hopes I can finally get some decent money having my first job (yep, I graduated in 2009, and never had a job!) or by getting some decent contract (I had many contracts, but mostly crappy ones that I took only because I had no other choice, since I am in debt). If I had a girlfriend, she would "get in the way", it would make my life worse, not better, I don't have time even to buy my own food, what would be the point in having someone to share things (including time) with?
People have had girlfriends (and even families) in much more dire situations, including in the whole developing world. Whether one has debt, or a car, or their own house, is not even much of a factor.
>I don't have time even to buy my own food, what would be the point in having someone to share things (including time) with?
The reason people pursue it is because generally it's considered inherently nice. If it's not for you, then fine, but it's not like wanting to be with someone has not been part of the human condition (not to mention a biological imperative) since the beginning of time.
But it's not a logistical operation, either you're in love with someone and want to be with them, or not. If not, then it doesn't make much sense to ponder whether to get a girlfriend or not.
People have had girlfriends (and even families) in much more dire situations, including in the whole developing world. Whether one has debt, or a car, or their own house, is not even much of a factor.
>I don't have time even to buy my own food, what would be the point in having someone to share things (including time) with?
The reason people pursue it is because generally it's considered inherently nice. If it's not for you, then fine, but it's not like wanting to be with someone has not been part of the human condition (not to mention a biological imperative) since the beginning of time.
But it's not a logistical operation, either you're in love with someone and want to be with them, or not. If not, then it doesn't make much sense to ponder whether to get a girlfriend or not.