> Both of us were accidents

I wish people didn't feel obligated to have children if they know they don't want children or know they aren't up to doing it properly. It's not like accidents can't be "fixed".

This isn't directly aimed at you, I'm sure you are a wonderful person and are happy about this accident. I just feel children should not be had as status symbols or out of obligation.

> To say we were unloved would be wrong - but we were inconvenient, and never allowed to forget it.

Loved, but inconvenient. I'm having a hard time wrapping my mind around that one :) I guess that's cognitive dissonance.

Regardless, all the best. Thanks for sharing.