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Re:A neural link between affective understanding and interpe... by agentgt on Thursday December 15, 2016 @09:43AM (#13184840)
> "Look, I already know we don't have anything in common. Don't bring it up later as a reason to leave."

I can vouch that you do not have to have much in common with your significant other despite what all the dating services will lead you to believe.

My wife and I have failed every compatibility test (most of the tests are gimmicky anyway) and have very little in common yet we have been together for 17 years.

However we can still effectively communicate to one another.

One armchair conclusion I sort of take from the study is that this should give some greater credence to couples therapy and that sooner participation is probably better. After all communication can be learned.

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Re:A neural link between affective understanding and interpe... by pasquinelli on Thursday December 15, 2016 @01:02PM (#13186603)
Could also be that just because you and your wife don't have much in common doesn't mean you don't understand one another. Shared traits and understanding are different things.
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