Re:Why You Will Marry the Wrong Person
by coldtea on Sunday December 11, 2016 @11:45AM
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>And from such reasonable marriages, there flowed loneliness, infidelity, abuse, hardness of heart and screams heard through the nursery doors.
That's not a historically accurate description. In some cases it lead to that (but so did the "modern" idea of marriage as based on passion). It also lead to countless totally normal and stable marriages.
People weren't even unhappy about not marrying someone they are passionate about, because that was not in the "idea horizon". You don't miss what you don't expect.
Ask Indian people (that have not been westernized) for their arranged marriages, for example, and you'll get the idea. They don't find the appalling or alien in the least, and can be as tender and lovable between them as any couple.
That's not a historically accurate description. In some cases it lead to that (but so did the "modern" idea of marriage as based on passion). It also lead to countless totally normal and stable marriages.
People weren't even unhappy about not marrying someone they are passionate about, because that was not in the "idea horizon". You don't miss what you don't expect.
Ask Indian people (that have not been westernized) for their arranged marriages, for example, and you'll get the idea. They don't find the appalling or alien in the least, and can be as tender and lovable between them as any couple.