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Re:Adapting to American culture as a Chinese student by throwaway776834 on Sunday November 27, 2016 @06:15AM (#13048665)
Humour can be used as a social prompt - someone on Tinder might make a joke about fashion if they want to make sure their date wears nice clothing, for example. It can also be used as a plausibly deniable way of telling someone you're worried about something - "I hope you're not a craigslist scammer" or "as long as my Christmas gift isn't socks or books".

I wonder if his roommates were attempting to give him some social cues about what kind of behaviour they wanted and/or trying to ease their own discomfort about living with someone from a different culture.

Re:Adapting to American culture as a Chinese student by tentsive on Sunday November 27, 2016 @06:28AM (#13048695)
Well, let's use the "Black Litmus Test" to see if it sounds more like stereotypical racism or just humor:

"In the group text, they joked that I would go out and play basketball all day, only listen to rap and hip hop, coming back late at night, and even joked that they should all move out because of me..."

Would this be an okay use of humor to ease their discomfort?

Re:Adapting to American culture as a Chinese student by throwaway776834 on Sunday November 27, 2016 @06:57AM (#13048758)
I don't think the mockery received by the OP was okay, so no, that wouldn't be okay either.

Having said that, firstly, understanding why a bad behaviour happens is important in stopping it: maybe students should meet their roommates earlier, or get introduced to them over the phone, or get pamphlets titled "How Not To Alienate The Person You Will Live With For The Next Year", or something.

Secondly, the OP is talking about people who were raised in a totally different culture. "Black" in the context you're talking about presumably means black Americans, who live in the same country as you, speak the same language as you, and get the same TV as you. As someone from outside America, I'm quite happy that the cultural differences between us exist, because they make life interesting - however, they can be an obstacle to communication.

Re:Adapting to American culture as a Chinese student by peteretep on Sunday November 27, 2016 @11:20AM (#13049891)
Let's use the equally arbitrary "Finnish Litmus Test": In the group text they joked that I would go out and play ice hockey all day, only listen to death metal, eat exclusively pickled fish...

Just sounds funny to me. Almost like a history of oppression is an integral factor in this, and joking about the diligence and work ethic of a group that's found huge success via those is different from joking about a group that's been literally enslaved, marginalised, and overtly oppressed by the group the jokers belong to.

Re:Adapting to American culture as a Chinese student by mdpye on Sunday November 27, 2016 @02:46PM (#13051033)
Just sounds dumb to me.

I don't really understand how reducing any population of millions to two or three characteristics qualifies as humour. We can do much better!