> the ability to not deal with race and gender every day of their lives?

Sometimes, a thought percolates up from my poor rural white-boy hind-brain, that maybe instead of absorbing themselves in thinking and protesting and teeth-gnashing about these issues, they might be happier if they focused on themselves and things they can do to improve their own lot in life. If you constantly pick at a scab, it takes forever to heal.

I have to remember to not let these forbidden thoughts dribble out. Damn...