I feel your pain. There is very few robust database system that handle recovery well enough at scale, and for those without the deep pocket to keep a dba on hand there are very little choices.

For small/middle scale robust system Cockroach db is promising but still needs a couple years development, if it can survive without a monetization strategy long enough.

https://www.cockroachlabs.com/blog/cant-run-100-node-cockroa...

Cassandra is at least the devil I know, although it seems to find a new way to fail me every six months or so.