And the fact that you think it's even remotely acceptable to dismiss the personal offense that a good 50% of the population takes to something as clearly passive-aggressively hostile as "ask a female engineer" is strong evidence that you should go about it a different way.

No, 50% of the population doesn't take offense to hearing the perspectives of an underrepresented group who all too often have their points of view talked over, elided, or outright stolen. A small, bigoted percentage does take offense, but that's really more their problem than anyone else's.

When I was studying computer science in an American university 10 years ago, white people were (massively) underrepresented. So you think it would be "ok" for me to do an "ask a white computer science major"? Of course, I already know the answer.