edit: I realized my response references a different comment I made. Sorry about that, I've modified it.
If there's nothing you could do with the money then I agree it makes no sense to spend time and energy raising. That doesn't seem to be the OPs position though, instead there seems to be a moral reason for not raising money. I'm not arguing that all startups must be nurtured by VCs, just that saying there's no conditions under which you'll accept money from a VC isn't a rational stance.
The business model would need to support it though. The business model taking on lots of cash needed a community to be effective and would have been extremely difficult to achieve without those resources. Being able to self fund and find paying customers early is not always an option.
I could see the logic from a VC perspective- VCs aren't going to make any money from companies that don't take funding from them. Companies that don't take funding may as well not exist to them. VC firms themselves are businesses that make money by nurturing other businesses. That just means that all VC firms need startups to nurture, it doesn't mean that all startups must be nurtured by VC firms.