Re:How to listen when you disagree
by AnimalMuppet on Thursday August 04, 2016 @06:23PM
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No. But even in the worst case, if there is no possibility of compromise and it comes to force, you are in a position to use the force with sadness rather than hatred. That's much better for you, and it's even better for the other side, especially if you win.
Re:How to listen when you disagree
by woodandsteel on Friday August 05, 2016 @08:01PM
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>you are in a position to use the force with sadness rather than hatred
That's a very wise thought.
Re:How to listen when you disagree
by woodandsteel on Thursday August 04, 2016 @07:08PM
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>It is the first step, but it only works if the other side is also willing to take it with you. If you are the only one changing your position, it is not a mutual compromise, by definition.
That's true. However, once the other person feels well understood, they often get more interested in trying to understand your side. And then, once you and the other person side each have a better understanding of what the other wants, it may be possible to come up with some third alternative that makes both of you happy.
It is the first step, but it only works if the other side is also willing to take it with you. If you are the only one changing your position, it is not a mutual compromise, by definition.