If that's the case our victims are really good at not crying about it. It's like we're the only ones who shout, "I got hacked!"

How do you know you've been hacked when the "hacking" is done via a backdoor in a Cisco edge router or switch or in a Microsoft software?

Most small nations that use backdoored devices and software don't have the means to investigate.

You miss the other side of the coin there, which is that the Americans are very (very) good at not boasting about how good they are at it. If Congress thinks that they're losing the cyberwarz, it'll be easier to appropriate ever-increasing budgets.