Nearly all professionals in the west are in that position. They could give away most of their income to save desperately poor people, but they feel that they deserve it for themselves. It's a very broad blurry line between evil and respectable. Mostly dependent on whatever popular culture tells us it should be.

Yes, good point. I think the best way to go around it is supporting systems that prevent people having unnecessary horrible positions in life, starting at country or even state wide, and hopefully worldwide systems in the future. Also to help this, getting people to identify what sort of arguments value another persons life as nothing, is a great way of diffusing harmful ideas. It is that obvious that it has been mentioned in ancient times, such as the biblical "You will be judged as you have judged others". Putting an emphasis on the value of a persons life other than what can be taken from them, should support these better systems.

Back to what you have put forward, yes, it is very easy to forget the people who you just don't see.