No, what I’m telling you is that because your goal is evidently not to enjoy life no matter what — you’d rather feel morose and listless and frustrated at times — your solutions (withdrawal) are of no relevance to someone whose goal is to enjoy life no matter what (bien dans ma peau and joie de vivre).
It is a such simple thing, no?
Indeed not, and the irony of you asking the question is not lost on me. I am not telling you what to do (thereby failing to observe the limits of what is permitted or appropriate) — your goal is evidently not to enjoy life no matter what (you’d rather feel morose and listless and frustrated at times) — rather I’m conveying that what you, the nihilists and the spiritualists are doing (withdrawal) is a second-rate solution for the purpose of enjoying life no matter what.
Is it really that difficult to grasp such a simple thing?
> Let's assume my goal is not to be morose and listless, but to enjoy life no matter what. What is your suggestion?
To not withdraw, of course, as a reaction to stress is not the same as a solution to (ending of) it.
I get frustrated when I read articles like this and comments like yours. I understand intellectually and through secondhand experience of others how crippling loneliness and isolation can be for most people. However, I can honestly say that I have no memories of ever having felt "lonely" in the way described as the article and I know myself well enough to know what makes me happy. Telling me that because my life doesn't fit your pattern I must be unhappy is a bit presumptuous, don't you think?