Re:The Science of Making Friends
by stegosaurus on Monday April 25, 2016 @09:12AM
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Thank you for this comment. I think it's really hard to pin down.
I don't agree that it's about people 'drifting apart', or 'finding different interests'.
In some sense those are being taken as tautologies, when I don't think they are. Why can't people with different interests hang out?
There's loads to talk about. Our interests are a tiny microscopic portion of the human experience.
In the UK people go out and get stone drunk and then anything becomes a fun topic of discussion. We call it disinhibition. But why are we 'inhibited' to begin with?
This is why I call it 'ego'. I don't think I'm using the term accurately. It's just this idea of pleasing one's self, efficiently, rather than trying to be part of some whole, or just swimming, letting life happen.
I don't agree that it's about people 'drifting apart', or 'finding different interests'.
In some sense those are being taken as tautologies, when I don't think they are. Why can't people with different interests hang out?
There's loads to talk about. Our interests are a tiny microscopic portion of the human experience.
In the UK people go out and get stone drunk and then anything becomes a fun topic of discussion. We call it disinhibition. But why are we 'inhibited' to begin with?
This is why I call it 'ego'. I don't think I'm using the term accurately. It's just this idea of pleasing one's self, efficiently, rather than trying to be part of some whole, or just swimming, letting life happen.