You are, no doubt, right. But there seems to be no path forward without offending someone. Simply being a woman in a man's world with an opinion seems to set off plenty of people. I do my best to be respectful, but there comes a point past which I can choose to be so respectful of the delicate sensibilities of men that I never say anything ever or I can risk what is often a shitshow no matter how carefully I word it.

Hopefully, the article I linked to says it better. I am the author. It did make the front page of HN when someone other than me chose to post it here. I believe it to be one of the more even handed approaches to the problem space.