Many of the situations Fry is complaining about were actually people doing the exact same thing. e.g. just not showing up to a debate or lecture by a person that they don't want to engage with. When a random student decides not to attend a debate with a national celebrity it's labeled as "no platforming" (in the words of Peter Tatchell) and condemned in the national media. When Fry chooses not to engage with people (which he is perfectly free to do) his critics have no such platform to publicly moan about him.

So there very much seems to be a double standard here. If you are an older feminist or gay rights campaigner or celebrity you can take advantage of a platform in the national newspapers to complain about the activities of students. If you are a student all you can do is not attend, but even doing that can get your name dragged through the mud in newspapers because people like Julie Bindel, Germain Greer and Peter Tatchell are given a huge platform by newspapers.