TIOBE is a poor measure of programming language popularity for a lot of reasons. But even if we accept that Java, C, C++, and C# are the top languages, I already commented that Java's build is not that fast in the real world (except for very small projects). I don't have any first-hand experience with C#, but I've never heard anyone claim fast compilation is an advantage of that language. C and C++ are slow builders, as we already know. So the top compiled languages are rather slow compilers, which is one reason why scripting languages (I assume you mean non-ahead-of-time-compiled-languages) became popular in the 2000s. This is one part of what Rob Pike was talking about when he said "poorly designed static type systems drive people to dynamic typing."
Gradle/Maven don't do incremental compilation at the level of the file, so yes, they're gonna redo the whole thing each time. Use an IDE for that. IntelliJ will happily do incremental compilation in Java projects at the level of the individual file (and there's no relinking overhead).
I understand that you're saying the top languages are slow builders, but it's just not the case. It sounds like you've used tools which simply aren't optimised for build times and judging the language based on that. But I usually have roundtrip times between editing my code and running the recompiled program of about a second when working with Java.
Prior to using Java, I used C++ for 10 years. Every project I worked on had compile time problems. It was an open secret that we spent most of our time waiting for compiles.
It's very common for people working on small projects to feel good about their compile times. But sometimes projects grow up, and they outgrow the language and the tools they were designed in.
And yet, it is completely consistent with pretty much all other measurements of programming language popularity (github, job postings, StackOverflow answers, etc...).
So maybe it's not that poor a measure after all.
By "most compiled languages" I guess I was thinking of the most popular ones, not literally all compiled languages. Sloppy phrasing, sorry. The top compiled languages according to TIOBE are Java, C, C++, C# (actually these are the top languages in general). Then they're all scripting languages until position 11 which is Delphi. So those are the top 5 and except for C/C++ they compile fast.
OCaml, SML, Haskell, Rust etc are all rather rare languages.