There's a substantial difference between a few months (or even years) of deployment vs. 18 years of child development with no father.
Also interesting to note is that a lot of negative children statistics do not apply to single mother widows.
Also interesting to note is that a lot of negative children statistics do not apply to single mother widows.
The classic solution was large extended family's which is where America falls down.
PS: It's even a major plot point in the Odyssey which is ~2,800 years old.