I don't understand how people are always so shocked that some people are unaware of these issues. For a related example, I didn't know catcalling was that prevalent (outside of the assumedly anachronistic stereotype of construction workers I'd seen in movies) until shortly after college. I'd never witnessed it happen, and none of my female friends had ever mentioned it happening to them, so why would I assume that it happened super often?

It was only after we all graduated and moved to denser cities that female friends started experiencing it and mentioning it (and since then I've read plenty of articles about it). Since none of my friends are assholes, my initial "wow it's really that universal an experience?" was met with affirmation instead of "you really are a pervy creeper with your head in the sand".

Your specific example about socializing women to be accommodating is also not something I knew existed until a couple years out of college. I didn't see how my friends' parents raised them firsthand and my sister was/is a holy terror, by far the least polite and accommodating of our otherwise fairly reserved family (myself included). The girls in our friend group tended to be less demure and more confident. Again, I wouldn't know about it if I hadn't read so much about it, and there are plenty of people who haven't been exposed to articles about it.