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Re:What Keeps Couples Happy Long Term by toyg on Tuesday February 09, 2016 @10:05AM (#11065724)
My point is that this sort of studies has been done over and over again, and they repeat the same results pretty much all the time. Have you ever heard anyone say that a good relationship is due to partners not talking and not having sex?

Ever since the myth of the "obedient and silent wife" was dispelled in the '60s and '70s, it looks to me as intuition and research in this particular field overlapped fairly consistently. The interesting question would now be "why do people not do this already, even when rational and well-educated?". That would be noteworthy.

I don't know, maybe the point of this research was getting down to the details (which they do, a bit), but the overall structure is the same as always.

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Re:What Keeps Couples Happy Long Term by infinite8s on Tuesday February 09, 2016 @10:12AM (#11065763)
The answer to "why do people not do this already, even when rational and well-educated?" is likely because in most families both parents have to work, and are probably tired at the end of the day. Relationships take work and it's sometimes easy to slip into a routine where you let the relationship just coast (especially once you have young children and any free time you used to have is out the window).
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