She used to ask for me to pay for her nails and massages and stuff, I would do it once, then not do it anymore. If I were making more money, I could budget it in, but as it is I just don't have it. I encourage her to get her other guy friends to pay for that stuff for her.
And on the 'using' issue: If I had the kind of money these guys have, and the willingness to use it on dating, I'd regularize it. I'd have accounts at all her beauty spots and have them just send me the bill every month. I would of course talk to her to keep it from getting excessive, (more likely I'd negotiate with the business for better rates) but I would not begrudge a lady for taking advantage of my generosity. That's what it's there for.
I never say Women or Girls are evil. They are not that cute creatures that you think they are, though. They are completely acting on their own self-interest which is fine and logical.
You'll be in for some surprises/lessons. But that's how we all learn I guess.
When did I say she wasn't?
> yet try to make it look like you have it all figured out.
I have the kind of lifestyle that allows me to learn these kinds of lessons very quickly. Beautiful women, and their attendant problems, have come into and out of my life for as long as I can remember, and I've read everything interesting that I could find regarding human attraction / connection, tested the methods, and come to my own conclusions. The lessons / surprises you say I'm 'in for', I've learned over and over again.
There is still room in the world for love and trust and tenderness. You need to be emotionally mature and be willing to be vulnerable. Heartbreaks happen but you move on. If you let yourself get scarred then you'll never find truly honest and open love. That honestness and openness is so important for me to find that I will allow myself to get hurt as many times as it takes.
I do not see myself as playing a game with this girl that one of us will win. I see it as two people exploring life together. It's not a game, there are no points, only experiences to share.
- She's very unlikely getting that spoiled by other men. Girls say that all the time to pump their value and push you to higher standards.
- Unless she is: 1. texting you 3-5 times a day and 2. having sex with you; she's using you literally for any penny you are spending.
Girls will kill for men they like. They'll spend all their money on him. I had a girl save for a month to pay for a train ticket just to see me. You are very likely being played here.