Not understanding. Have not done what? If you mean finding and keeping her, well, we're still dating after having known each other for several years and some nasty experiences. Our relationship gets a little better every day. I'm satisfied with where we're at right now. I'm not ready to get married and she's not ready to settle down yet.

More to the point, you don't keep a woman by locking her in a cage. You do it by being the first person she calls or texts to tell about her day.

Kept the woman of your dreams. For most people this implies a monogamous relationship. Unless I miss-understood that is not what you're describing?

I edited my response to answer your question.

All I can respond to this is good luck and I hope you stay happy.

Thanks. It's been rocky at times, jealousy does get in the way from time to time. But it's been an amazing learning experience getting to know her and build a friendship with her. Both of us are only going to evolve and grow over time, both together and apart. I wouldn't trade that for anything.