Yeah. A lot of people don't want to either. Going there can often lead to questions about the self and character and other things... I went through that. Small town ignorance, married a wonderful woman who some how saw better in me, and a lot of introspection on car rides home to shake it.

Doing that hurts and it's scary, but it also rewards one with security and empathy needed to understand just how completely unacceptable bigotry, racism, etc... really are too.

The triggers for that so very often happen by another person, a target, sharing.