35 here as well. I still get excited...as long as it's exciting dammit. When I was 24, just being allowed to work on something and get paid for it, was enough for me to feel gratitude! Now? You want me to support some idiot's shit-code and not be given opportunity to truly fix it/improve it? Find some sucker in his 20's to do that, I'm out.

I found myself in a similar position a few years ago, looking for a new job after a startup had floundered, and felt really stressed about jumping into a new organization with false enthusiasm. I didn't want to lead any company on, but was really deflated from my prior experience.

Thankfully, I found an amazing consulting firm constructed of around 15-20 folks with a similar history that really valued work-life balance and carefully chose its clients based on respecting those boundaries. We did really great work, within those boundaries. As a starting point for a search for that kind of company, I would recommend weworkremotely.com (where I found that firm), because they're generally companies willing to make convenience/control tradeoffs (such as working with remote employees) in order to get stuff done.