Re:I'm a pedophile, but not a monster
by threatofrain on Thursday December 31, 2015 @11:15AM
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You most certainly do have the right to keep your children away from people, and not just pedophiles, but also strangers, Scientologists, or anyone you wish. Pedophiles also have the right to act within the bounds of the law.
I think you're getting downvoted because your prose looks like like noise and emotion. The framing doesn't look like it's aimed for productivity, as opposed to individual emotional expression.
People could agree to a cool-headed discussion about cool-headed policy of keeping pedophiles away from children. One may be able to gather consensus for such a discussion. You could also have a cool-headed discussion about keeping alcoholics away from bars, and you could even gather consensus among alcoholics and non-alcoholics.
But you are the wrong person to represent any such argument. You sound like noise and emotion. I hope you don't respond with saying, "Of course I respond with emotion! My disgust is just as natural! It's my parental instinct!"
I also think you totally miss the point of what this person is saying, and instead your overcharged emotional reaction justifies pedophiles hiding rather than being open. That's a shame.
It's a shame because the pedophiles who expose themselves do so with almost no expected gain, but with a tremendous amount of risk and cost. It's not like the emotions of pedophiles become any less problematic if they stay secretive. But by being open, they are more likely to seek instruments of self-regulation, such as therapy.
Not all parents lose sight of the fact that their family exists within an ecology of families and individuals. It's not like I'm going to put children in front of pedophiles, no more than I am going to tempt an alcoholic by bringing them to a bar. But I'm not going to allow myself to be overwhelmed by disgust either, so much that I would say that even self-disclosure for a pedophile is disgusting.
I can explain to my children my policy and tell them that they'll understand and be able to make their own decisions when they are adults, and I can do so without letting disgust spill all over the place. I'd rather my children understand my reasoning than simply see an unregulated display of disgust.
I think you're getting downvoted because your prose looks like like noise and emotion. The framing doesn't look like it's aimed for productivity, as opposed to individual emotional expression.
People could agree to a cool-headed discussion about cool-headed policy of keeping pedophiles away from children. One may be able to gather consensus for such a discussion. You could also have a cool-headed discussion about keeping alcoholics away from bars, and you could even gather consensus among alcoholics and non-alcoholics.
But you are the wrong person to represent any such argument. You sound like noise and emotion. I hope you don't respond with saying, "Of course I respond with emotion! My disgust is just as natural! It's my parental instinct!"
I also think you totally miss the point of what this person is saying, and instead your overcharged emotional reaction justifies pedophiles hiding rather than being open. That's a shame.
It's a shame because the pedophiles who expose themselves do so with almost no expected gain, but with a tremendous amount of risk and cost. It's not like the emotions of pedophiles become any less problematic if they stay secretive. But by being open, they are more likely to seek instruments of self-regulation, such as therapy.
Not all parents lose sight of the fact that their family exists within an ecology of families and individuals. It's not like I'm going to put children in front of pedophiles, no more than I am going to tempt an alcoholic by bringing them to a bar. But I'm not going to allow myself to be overwhelmed by disgust either, so much that I would say that even self-disclosure for a pedophile is disgusting.
I can explain to my children my policy and tell them that they'll understand and be able to make their own decisions when they are adults, and I can do so without letting disgust spill all over the place. I'd rather my children understand my reasoning than simply see an unregulated display of disgust.