I'm a grad student (already have my masters, 3rd year into PhD). I've only had one CS prof make a gender-related disparaging comment, and he was talked to privately, and his contract was not renewed at the end of the semester (that was not his only indiscretion). I have never seen anyone question (publicly or privately) a student's or professor's abilities and achievements, regardless of gender, unless they were otherwise underperforming. Furthermore, in those situations, sexual activity was never implied, but nepotism was.

As for these "women" conferences, I have a colleague who has attended 3 conferences in the past year (on the University's dime) just because of her gender (she was not presenting). I have attended 0 conferences. I was not even able to attend a conference in which my paper was accepted (my advisor presented in my place) because there was not enough funds for travel.

And yet, when I speak out, I'm the bad guy...