Note though that it's only the women who get dinged as "girlfriends" tagging along with their technologist boyfriends when they co-found immensely successful venture capital firms.

Hopefully that helps you understand the immediate negative reaction your comments generated.

They didn't "recruit" RTM or TLB because they had specific skills that YC needed. They asked them because PG, RTM, and TLB had previously founded Viaweb together, and so they knew they could work well together and all had shared history and cultural knowledge. And then if you go back to the founding of Viaweb, PG and RTM started it because they were best friends at Harvard, well before RTM wrote the Morris Worm (indeed, if you read some of the news articles on the worm, PG is quoted). TLB was brought on because they asked all their friends "Who's the smartest person you know?", Trevor's name came up, and then when they met him, he rewrote their entire product in Smalltalk in 2 weeks.

No. She was not "dating the founder". She was a founder.

Your position isn't "controversial"; it's based on a broken and insulting premise. Please stop pushing it.

You're in no position to criticize someone else's "wording" and "tone". Please stop.

She is a founder of YC, BTW - that's what it means to be a co-founder. You could just as easily say that PG was dating the founder of YC, and she made use of his technical expertise and that of his friends in judging startups.