After talking with a few friends about this, a kind of a non-consensus emerged - men say that women only aim "higher", want more successful, taller, handsome, equally or better educated, "alpha" men; women agree and say that many other women want this, but not them. At the same time, women say that men "lower", and want a women that earns less, isn't more educated, and is submissive; men agree and say many other men might think like this, but not them.

I'm not too sure what to make of this, except that each perspective is necessarily biased. (In the above, "men" and "women" refer to my friends, so a very small sample. Also, I'm only describing the heterosexual view.)